12 Tips to Feel Sexy in 2012

Top 12 Tips to Feel Sexy in 2012

1. Look at yourself in the mirror every day. Get up close so you can look directly into your own eyes. Smile and say, “I love you.” Do this every day until you really, truly, deeply believe it. Don’t be surprised if this deceptively simple exercise brings tears to your eyes.

2. Think about a time when you felt sexy and confident. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and totally immerse yourself in the memory. Recall every detail you can, until you feel the feelings bubbling up to the surface. Hold onto the feelings for a few seconds, and while they’re still strong, open your eyes and smile. You’re training yourself to feel sexy and confident when you do this regularly.

3. Let your clothing reflect you. Go through your closet and get rid of any clothing that no longer fits or feels good. If you don’t love it, donate it. You should be left with only things you love or need. Any time you wear frumpy, ill fitting clothing, you tell yourself you don’t deserve to feel sexy. This doesn’t mean you always have to dress up. Simple, casual, well-fitting clothing can stay.

4. Put on your favorite outfit. Look at yourself in a full length mirror. Compliment yourself out loud about how great you look, and be specific. Parade around your bedroom and strike a few poses. Don’t forget to smile as you do it; remember, it’s all about attitude!

5. Sign up for pole dancing classes. No, I’m not kidding. Take classes for at least a month. Not only is pole dancing a kick-butt workout, but you can’t help feeling sexy... and strong, and powerful... when you master a move. As an added bonus, the classes will make you stronger and more confident, and there’s nothing sexier than a strong, confident woman. 

6. Take the initiative. If you have a romantic partner, take the initiative and do something sexually you’ve never done.  I guarantee, your partner will be so stoked, you’ll feel like a goddess. Need an idea? Try this: look him (or her) right in the eye, with your chin lowered so you’re looking up into their eyes. Say, “I want to make love to you... right now.” Then take their hand and walk into the bedroom. Even that little bit of initiative will put some sizzle in the act.

7. Learn how to hula hoop. It’s cheap, and you can find lots of great tutorials on YouTube. Hooping gets you into your body, and when you’re tuned into your body it’s easy to treat it well. It helps loosen the hips, which makes it easier to express your emotions. I know that might sound strange, but energetically we store grief in our hips. Tight hips mean a lot of grief, and it’s hard to feel sexy when you have a lot of unexpressed grief.

8. Give yourself permission to feel sexy. One of the great gifts of the female body is that it’s full of soft lines and curves. Being sexy doesn’t mean you’re stupid. Being sexy doesn’t mean you think your value is in your beauty. It means that you appreciate this body you’ve been given. It means you don’t have to compete with men on their turf; you’ve got your own. Gone are the days when women find self confidence from acting like men. Act like a real woman!

9. Do something creative. The second chakra is the home of sexuality and creativity. It’s an energy wheel that sits inside the pelvic bowl. Its center, in women, is in the womb. Energetically, creativity and sexuality are inseparable. If you’re really stuck trying to feel yourself sexy, do something creative instead. So you say you’re not an artist? Bake something, or experiment with a new dinner recipe. It will set the creative juices flowing and give you the same energetic lift as any of these other steps.

10. Take a dance exercise class. Nia and Zumba are the most popular, and they’re are also hybrid yoga classes that incorporate dance. Or you could fulfill a childhood dream and take ballet, jazz or tap lessons. Dance classes help you get in touch with your body- how it feels, how it moves, what it needs. Being in touch with your body is sexy. Best of all, you don’t have to be in great shape to start, and they’ll help you become more fit and healthy.

11. SMILE! Smiling is sexy. It makes you feel good, and when you smile, other people around you will feel good. Smiling is contagious, and in some situations will make people wonder what you’ve been up to. That combination of happy and mysterious is sexy.

12. "Love" Yourself. Give yourself an orgasm (or two!) before you go out on the town with your girlfriends. The endorphins flowing through your body, plus the subtle scent to pheromones, will drive guys wild. The fact that you are the one responsible for your sexual pleasure is empowering and super sexy. And every time you remember your little secret, you’ll get a sly smile or a big grin on your face.

The worrying trend of 'sexting'

Sexting: You Can Do Something About It

A growing trend among youngsters to take and share indecent photos through mobile phones is a matter of grave concern. 

Two major surveys involving more than 3,000 children suggest that four out of ten have received or seen an indecent image via a mobile, reports the Daily Mail .

As if you weren’t concerned enough about your child’s online life, the topic of sexting is another important facet to our modern day e-world. Sexting encompasses any electronic exchange that contains sexual talk and or pictures. In mild cases it can look like flirting, while in severe cases it can be considered a crime. Take, for example, a just barely 18 year-old 12th grade boy who is texting an almost 15 year old freshman. He asks her “how far she has gone,” which then leads to other graphic questions. In the end he asks her if she’d send him a suggestive picture of herself. She obliges, and suddenly you have a very serious offense. 

A serving police officer seconded to the survey, Alan Earl, has given talks in scores of secondary schools about the dangers of children swapping explicit photographs of themselves. "Boys ask girls to take pictures of themselves naked, and the girls do it to please them. Not all girls, but those who have boyfriends: they think their pictures are not going to be shown." 



 "After my talk, at almost every school, a teacher will approach me and confide that they've already had to deal with an incident like those I've described," Earl added. 

More typically, the naked images sent around phones are static poses, usually of girls standing up or lying down. 

"It is girlfriend/boyfriend stuff, but then the relationship breaks down and the boy sends the pictures on," said Alan Earl. 

A photograph of a young girl in the wrong hands is the beginning of a nightmare.  Because teens can “hide” behind their screens, sexting, allows them to learn about sexual behaviors without the face-to-face embarrassment. Even “good” girls and boys may be tempted to sext.

When should you talk to your teen about sexting?  And what should you say? The answer is to talk opening about cell phone use and sexting before it happens. 

• Tell your child/teen that YOU have the ability to monitor their texts.  Let him or her know that if sexual talk, body pictures or other crude information is exchanged, you will suspend cellular use. 
• Enforce a NO BODY PICTURES rule.  No excuses.
• Monitor their texts! If this feels violating, then monitor the time texts are sent (aka 2 am) and to whom they are sent.
• Children under the age of 16 do not REALLY need smart phones with high resolution picture capabilities, etc.  This only facilitates sexting.
• Talk to girls about the dangers of having text conversations about sexual experiences – past and potential future. Boys will quickly become more bold and eager to text more and ask more graphic questions. Girls sometimes do not know how to stop unsolicited questions or requests for pictures of themselves.
• Talk to boys about the trouble that can result from blatant sexual solicitations. Girls will often-times NOT tell them they are uncomfortable, or can turn around and claim “sexual harassment” when none was intended (this should be judged by a case-to-case basis obviously.)

With the prevalence of cell phones, sexting is on the rise. Parents need to be aware of the threats and talk to their children about the dangers to prevent the potentially devestating, and long-lasting effects of sexting.

Top 7 Surprising Sex Facts

Top 7 Surprising Sex Facts

What you should know about sex, but don’t...

We all do it, or at least want to be doing it, but do you know everything you need to? Even if you consider yourself to be a Karma Sutra king or queen, sex is a deep and complex subject and, quite frankly, there’s bound to be something you haven’t yet discovered. So, let’s talk sex: 

Sex is good for you

According to male legend Arnold Schwarzenegger ‘The best activities for your health are humping and pumping’. In many ways this is true; safe sex does have lots of health benefits. Those who have sex once or twice a week have been shown to have higher levels of immunoglobulin A or IgA, an antibody which helps protect you from respiratory diseases like the cold and flu. Also researchers have found that men in their 20s who had five or more ejaculations per week were one third less likely to develop prostate cancer in later life. It would seem Mr Schwarzenegger is on to something.

Get more sex

Everyone wants more sex and we know how you can get it. Dr Helen Fisher, biological anthropologist at Rutgers University explains that ‘People fall in love when dopamine levels rise in their brains”. This is the neurotransmitter that controls the brain’s reward and pleasure centres. You can only get more dopamine by doing two things. The first is to have more sex. The second is to recreate a rush of dopamine by doing an exciting activity, such as bungee jumping, flying in a helicopter or even doing something simple like climbing a tree. Once you have raised your partner’s levels of dopamine, they will want to have sex with you more.  

Sex o’clock

When we think of having a romantic encounter with that special someone, we often think of moonlight hitting silk sheets or candles flickering in a seductive, half-lit room. However, our bodies may be more attuned to having sex in the morning. Men’s testosterone levels peak in the morning and so men become more easily aroused at this time. Although many men wake up erect anyway, this does not actually mean they are sexually aroused – but what better way to start a day be it giving or receiving.

Who enjoys sex more?

When you’re under the covers, who is enjoying sex more; him or her? Interestingly this is not a new debate. In Ancient Greek mythology Hera complained to Zeus that he got more pleasure from their sex than she did. According to a new study, it is possible that Hera was telling the truth. Researchers at the John Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health, found that nearly nine out of 10 young men reported having an orgasm most or all of the time they have sex with their partner.  However, less than half of young women experience orgasm that frequently when they have sex with their partner.

Rules of attraction

It is possible that beauty is not in the eye of the beholder, but rather in the nose of the beholder. We have sex because we have an innate instinct to reproduce.  Therefore we are attracted to certain people because they will produce a strong baby. We find out who will produce these strong babies through our noses. For example, when people sweat pheromones are released; revealing their type of immune system. If their immune system is the opposite to the person smelling them, the two will be a good match, and should find each other irresistible.

How to tell when she wants it

We all know women are hard to read, but there are several physical clues that can help you to know when a woman wants to have sex with you. Firstly, when a woman is aroused her pupils will dilate. If a woman sees a man who she likes when out, but does not know him, she will give him prolonged eye contact. Her lips will also purse and if you catch her repeatedly gazing at your lips then it is very likely that she wants you. However, if a woman crosses her legs or arms and repeatedly looks away from you, it’s time to leave.

We all had a clitoris

Wouldn’t it be great to be able to understand what it is like to be a member of the opposite sex? Once upon a time, it would seem we were not all that different from each other. In the first trimester of pregnancy, the fetus is gender neutral, being neither male nor female. However, the fetus has all the makings of a clitoris and vagina. It is not until eight to 12 weeks have passed that males become distinct.

Forget gym, Now Burn Calories by Sexercise!

Forget gym, Now burn Calories by Sexercise!

Forget running on treadmills or hitting expensive gyms to shed those extra pounds, as now a cheaper way to lose calories has emerged in the form of - sexercise.


A study has revealed that, women are more inclined to have sex after a long day if they think it will help them lose weight.


Research showed that 76 percent of women are more inclined to weave the nocturnal workout into their routines if they think they will burn calories.


And almost two thirds of women who do own gym memberships said they were happier to carry out such activities as having sex and even doing the vacuuming if they thought it would burn as many calories as a traditional workout.


According to Kerry McCloskey's book, 'The Ultimate Sex Diet', a half-hour session of lovemaking will burn about 150 to 250 calories, and even up to 350 calories, depending on just how active you are.


Simply kissing for an hour burns over 200 calories - equivalent to three HobNob biscuits.


"We are burning calories constantly as we go about our day to day business," the Daily Mail quoted Darren Linnell, creator of Aspire drinks who commissioned the survey, as saying.


"It's about being aware of the small things we can do to give us that extra boost," he stated.

You Are Never Too Old To Fall In Love!

You Are Never Too Old To Fall In Love!

Getting It and Keeping It, one of my goals is to share that love is not just for the young. That belief was brought to my attention last week when I had the privilege of performing a wedding for a couple of seventy-year olds. The day was gorgeous with beautiful blue skies and puffy white clouds. The bride and groom were blissfully happy as they exchanged vows and rings.

As these two Senior Citizens looked at each other with eyes of love, I realized that you are never too old to feel romantic love. Although we may age and develop wrinkles and gray hair, inside we remain as young as when we were teenagers. Yet many people tell themselves that as grownups they should act that act their age! After all, old people look old so they should act old.

Many people think that as we get older we are incapable of feeling romantic, and that sexual feelings also atrophy. Plenty of younger folks have problems with desire and performance too. Since I have started using the amazing imagery technique I call the Phoenix Effect Process with my clients, I have helped a number of people well over sixty rediscover their sexual desire and rekindle what might have been a dying flame in their sex life.

An unsatisfying sex life is usually the result of negative beliefs about oneself and lack of information about sex and our bodies. Readily available porn on the internet and magazines that tell us that we must have hot bodies and continue to look young no matter how old we are, have even led women to have plastic surgery to revitalize an aging vagina!

Take stock of yourself and your life and pay attention to all the ways you have convinced yourself that you are unattractive, have no sexual desire, are too old or too wrinkled to have orgasms and take heart. You can re-awaken romance and desire, no matter your age. People are living older today. That means that couples can have more time to love each other.

Healthy Love Gestures for you

Healthy Love Gestures for you

If you feel that your relationship has struck a dry phase and the love gestures that were common once are no longer coming forth, it is usually because you have not understood the importance of those simple little things that make a huge difference in a relationship. Not only would this have a positive impact on your relationship, but also on your body and mind.

Some love gestures you should make frequently are –

Holding hands

There is nothing better than holding hands to let your partner know that you care. You can also ease the pain of certain health complications by this gesture. If your partner has a headache, at times even holding hands followed by a hug can bring relief. This gesture is especially needed when your partner is feeling sad or scared.

Kissing

Kissing lowers the level of the stress hormone cortisol. As you and your partner are the only person who can share this experience, you feel closer to each other after this act. Your immune system can develop some sort of resistance by kissing. It may sound gross but when you kiss, the exchange of saliva also exchanges germs with it. Your body needs to produce antibodies to fight those germs and hence become stronger.

Cuddling

The best way to make your partner feel secure is by cuddling. Oxytocin levels rise due to cuddling and levels of stress are reduced. This has a very good impact on your blood pressure as well as condition of the heart. The tickly sensation a woman experiences when hugged by her partner from the back is due to the release of oxytocin.

Listening

Often understated, this is often one of the most important features that can make your relationship healthy. Particularly in the stressful days, your partner needs someone to unburden their feelings. Suitable advice after he or she is done is also needed.

Fondling

Little gestures such as playing around with your partner’s hair, keeping your hands on his shoulders, running a hand through the back or neck, or any other. Your skin sends good signals to the brain that make you happy after being touched. Your faith in the relationship is reaffirmed and this makes you optimistic about being together. So, keep such fondling coming.

Surprises

If your partner has been surprising you every now and then with sweet gestures such as leaving a love note in your folder, or simply calling to say “I love you!” These produce a lot of endorphins in your body, perhaps as much as walking. So, why not start giving surprises.

A magical diet plan for You

A magical diet plan for You

The effectiveness of this seven-day plan is that the food eaten burns more calories than they give to the body in caloric value, but is completely nutritional and gives all vitamins, elements, etc. This plan can be used as often as you like however it is suggested that you rest for a week between each repetition. Abstain from alcohol. Drink 10 glasses of water each day.

o DAY ONE:  All fruits except bananas. Consume lots of melons on the first day. If you limit your fruit consumption to melons, your chances of losing a lot of weight on the first day are very good. 

o DAY TWO:  All vegetables. There is no limit on the amount or type. For your complex carbohydrate, you will start day two with a large boiled potato for breakfast. You may top the potato with one pat of butter. 

o DAY THREE:  A mixture of fruits and vegetables. Any amount, any quantity. No bananas yet. No potatoes today. 

o DAY FOUR:  Bananas and milk. Today you eat as many as eight bananas and drink three glasses of milk. This will be combined with the vegetable soup but in limited quantities. 

o DAY FIVE:  Today is a feast day. You will eat sprouts, paneer and tomatoes. Eat 280 grams of sprouts and paneer. Combine this with six tomatoes. On day five you must increase your water intake. This is to cleanse your system of the uric acid.

o DAY SIX:  Sprouts and paneer and vegetables. Today you may eat an unlimited amount of sprouts and paneer and vegetables. 

o DAY SEVEN:  Today your food intake will consist of brown rice, fruit juices and all the vegetables you like.Vegetables can be taken in the form of salad if desired. No dressing except malt, white vinegar, squeezed lemon, garlic and herbs. No more than one teaspoon of oil. Do keep way from beans.

Beverages 

1. Water flavoured with lemon or lime if desired.

2. Club soda

3. Black coffee, no cream or cream substitute, no sugar or sweeteners.

4. Black tea.

5. No fruit juices before Day7. 

How and why it works:

o DAY ONE:  You are preparing your system for the upcoming programme. 

o DAY TWO:  It starts with a fix of complex carbohydrates coupled with an oil does. This taken in the morning for energy . The rest of Day 2 consists of vegetables, which provide essential nutrients and fibre.

o DAY THREE:  Day 3 eliminates the potato because you are getting your calories from the fruits. Your system is now prepared to start burning the excess pounds.  

o DAY FOUR:  Bananas, milk and soup sound like the least desirable. You will probably not eat all the bananas that you are allowed. But they are there for the potassium and  sodium that you may have missed during the last 3 days. You will notice a definite loss of desire for sweets. 

o DAY FIVE:  Sprouts and tomatoes. The sprouts are for iron and protein. The tomatoes are for digestion and fibre. Lots of water purifies your whole system. 

o DAY SIX:  Iron and proteins from sprouts, vitamins, fibre and iron vegetables. By now your system is a total weight loss inclination. 

o DAY SEVEN:  You have your system under control.

Health Benefits of Kissing

Health Benefits of Kissing

Ever thought what makes you enjoy kissing? After all the passionate lip-lock is only two people plastering each other with their saliva while taking in good or bad breath; to take a really bland view of it. Some women would even say that it is more satisfying than intercourse. The deep intimacy felt with your partner at the time of kissing is what women look for and even men. There is a science behind such romantic sentiments. Kissing releases endorphins and oxytocin in our bodies that make us feel happy and attached to our partner.

One of the first things to be adversely affected after couples start to go apart in their relationship is kissing. Surveys conducted on these issues have yielded results that confirm this. The passion in a relationship is bound to dim at some point of time and the first noteworthy aspect of it would be that you feel “too busy” to kiss. That is why it was advised that to rekindle the lost passions, couples should make out more often. It can be an ideal remedy for couples facing a relationship problem. Getting back to kissing daily would make the couple relive their passionate days of initial romance to add to the healthy biochemical reaction in the body.

Why Men Love to Kiss as much as Women

• Men want to get a feel of their loved one, touch their face, feel their lips and also smell her. It gives them an excuse for getting a feel of the feminine softness of their partner.
• Men get an ego surge when their partner kisses them. It is as if they cannot believe their luck that their attractive mate is still hooked to them.
• An engaging smooch ignites the lost passion in men. They go from feeling like any it is other day to being completely aroused for sex.
• Being physically close to the mate has a direct bearing on being emotionally intimate. When men feel the breath of their wife, it makes them feel more attuned to her feelings and sensibilities. This togetherness brought about by fervent lip-lock brings about more passion in the sex.

You should experiment with kissing if it seems that your marriage has come to a dead end. Try public display of affection by making out in the open, stick to kissing without sex for a week, experiment with your kissing style and in short do anything when in lip-lock to arouse passion. You just might hit upon the best way to rekindle lost passion and relive your romance all over again.

Pros and Cons of Live-in Relationship

A live-in relationship is an alliance that people enter into in order to satisfy their various needs. Some people enter into one because they believe they are madly in love. Others do the same because they believe it will help them understand and know their partner better and will also aid in sculpting a better future with this person. There are advantages and disadvantages in every relationship and the same is true for live-in relationships too.

Pros of Live-in Relationships

• A live-in relationship lets a person see what living with her/his partner can actually be like. It is a step one can take before getting into an institutionalised arraignment such as marriage.
• A live-in relationship allows couples to spend more time with each other as now they are not bound by the constraints of time.
• Live-in relationships expose the level of love and intimacy as they stand between couples. A couple living together will get to know how much they care for and love each other and what are the various impediments in this liaison of theirs. It also brings relationship problems to the forefront before the final step of marriage is taken.
• Many couples believe that they should enter into a live-in relationship before taking the final plunge. Because in case some issues arise that absolutely cannot be sorted, the relationship can be ended without getting into a legal battle in most cases.
• Another considered advantage of live-in relationships is that because they currently fall outside the ambit of societal structure, the adverse influence of society can be avoided in them. This means that live-in relationships do not follow the otherwise necessary diktats of society. The burdens of social relationship are less in a live-in relationship and it actually helps a relationship blossom further.

 Cons of Live-in Relationships

• In simple words a live-in relationship leaves nothing to be discovered by the couple post marriage. Routine already sets in between live-in relations and there is anxiety or expectancy left for to be realised after marriage.
• Because there are no specific laws to deal with the intricacies of live-in relationships in most countries, the incidence of major problems in these cases are on the rise. Many people are duped of their assets in live-in relationships. Cases of verbal and physical abuse are also quite rampant in live-in relationship despite the fact that live-in relations are considered more ‘modern’.
• A potent disadvantage of live-in relationship is social censure. Because these relationships have not yet been awarded the stamp of social acceptance, they are looked at with scorn. Many couple in live-in relationships prefer to call themselves married fearing rejection. This primarily causes problems in relationships.
• It is very difficult to move into another relationship after a live-in relationship. Live-in relationships require a lot of time, energy and devotion. The most important fact is that in a live-in relationship two people decide to share their lives. And if such a relationship comes to an end it takes a toll on the mental health of people.