4 Steps for first time Sex

4 Steps for first time Sex

“Virginity is not humility but lack of opportunity”.We couldn’t agree more the first time heard this one-liner. But that’s not your problem right now is it? You’ve decided to take the all important step and give yourself to someone else. Whether you’re doing IT on your wedding night, or with your boyfriend/girlfriend, you’ve finally decided that you’re READY and it’s time to grab the bull by the horns. And time for a little work because it is important to know all the steps for first time sex.

Now, whether you’re male or female, you’ve probably watched your quota of steamy scenes in movies or even TV programmes—and we are not just talking about the Hollywood ones. Both Bollywood and the Small Screen have had their share of steamy scenes... and if you’ve paid enough attention, you would have realised that most deal with first time sex. Think Saif Ali Khan and Vidya Balan in Parineeta, Ajay Devgan and Kareena Kapoor in Omkara, Saif and Preity Zinta in Salaam Namaste, Priyanka Chopra and Arjan Bajwa in Fashion. Getting the picture yet?

Now here’s another common thread that you would have noticed if you’d been paying enough attention—losing your virginity is a big thing. Ask any psychologist, and he or she’ll tell you that the best sex is the kind you have with a person you’re emotionally connected to. So dump the idea of a one-night stand for your first time sex. Once you’ve picked the right person for this momentous occasion, there are plenty of things to do.

Step one for first time sex - Setting the scene


Once again, take a page out of the movies. Scented candles, soft music, dim lights, champagne, dinner... in short, this works. Yes, it’ll blow a hole in your pocket. But hey, at the end of the night, if it helps get your partner in the mood, then the expense is certainly worth it isn’t it? And this goes for every equation... if it’s the first time sex for both of you, if the woman’s a virgin or if the guy’s a virgin. Yep, works for all scenarios.

Step two for first time sex - Foreplay

The scenes have been set, but remember making love is not about flinging off your clothes and jumping into bed. Kissing, touching, petting are all part of foreplay and are an absolute. Yes, you’re expected to do this even if you’ve been making out in the back of your car on every date you’ve been on lately. Remember, you’re not about to just make out anymore, you’re taking the final step and your body needs to relax and enjoy the moment as much as your brain and your glands.

Step three for first time sex - Act

Leave the couch, the carpet, the kitchen or any other places you’ve been fantasizing having sex and head for the bedroom. The first time is special, and needs to be treated as such. And since you’ve done such a good job with Step one and Step two, there’s no reason you should bungle up step 3. Silk sheets, flowers, candles will heighten senses. Sexy lingerie on a woman will take things to a whole new level. One essential to the whole potent mix at this point is protection. You may think it’s not important, but you really don’t want to be paying the price nine months later, especially if you’re a woman. While condoms may be the most popular, they’re not the only way to protect yourself. If you’re thinking about a contraceptive, then make sure that you’ve been checked out by a gynaecologist first. It’s embarrassing sure, but once again, it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Step four for first time sex - Snuggle

Just because you’ve done the deed, doesn’t mean the moment ends there. The after is just as important as the before. So snuggle up as you catch your breath and indulge in some more kissing and touching. And now that you’ve tried the bed, it could be time to get more adventurous. The couch awaits.