Top 10 Sex Myths

Top 10 Sex Myths

Find out the real facts of life

Sex; it’s one of the most thought about subjects, but how much do we really know? Our knowledge of sex is often confused by rumours, misconceptions and outright lies. So, dust off your magnifying glass, pull out your probes and apply your long, investigative, latex gloves – it’s myth busting time:

A woman can’t get pregnant when it’s her first time

The notion that a woman cannot get pregnant the first time she has sex is still a commonly held belief. In Turkey 25 per cent of young people thought this was true. However, the truth of the matter is that without reliable contraception, pregnancy is possible, whether it is the woman’s first time or her fiftieth time.

I can’t darling, I’ve got a headache

Have you ever used the old headache excuse, or been denied some loving action because of one? Well, we have a cure for her sore head because sex has medicinal properties. When women have sex, endormorphins are released into her body, which in turn relieves pain. Therefore getting under the covers should help ease a woman’s headache.  

Men always want it

Although many men in their late teens and early twenties want a lot of it, men do not always want to have sex. Lots of things affect people’s sex drives; stress being one of the biggest culprits. If you don’t feel like it, there’s nothing wrong with you. On average Briton’s have sex six to seven times per month, whilst American’s on average have sex twice a week.  

If you masturbate you run out of semen

This is not true. The amount of semen a man ejaculates varies, being between half a teaspoon and a whole teaspoon of fluid. This equates to 40-500 million sperm.  Men who ejaculate a lot in one day may notice that the volume of semen decreases, but there is no risk of you running out of semen, you will simply produce more.

Older people don’t do it

Talking about old people getting frisky can embarrass some people; but let’s face it everyone likes sex, even the granddads and grandmas. Many people think that after the menopause women lose interest in sex, but this is not always true. Many older people enjoy an active sex life beyond the menopause and it has lots of health benefits too.

It’s good to lose your virginity when you are young

Although people are having sex younger, many regret it. The average age to lose your virginity is 16 in the UK. It was 21 in the 1950s. Sixty-three percent of sexually active adolescents wished they had waited longer and eighty-nine percent of those surveyed would advise their own brother, sister or friend not to have sex until at least after finishing secondary school.

Thin condoms break

If a condom is your preferred method of contraception, which type do you choose? There are a lot of condoms on the market: ribbed ones, sleek fitting ones, the thin, the thick and the pina colada flavored. Whichever you use, you don’t have to worry about the thickness because Durex reassures us that the thickness of the condom doesn't necessarily correspond to safety.

We’re all porn Stars

Watching two of Hollywood’s finest stars perform a hot love scene is great for getting you in the mood, but it should not be used as a sex guide. Real people do not come every time and last for three hours. Studies show that 75 per cent of men orgasm two to three minutes after penetration and an estimated 30 per cent of women can only achieve orgasm through masturbation.  

Men cheat more than Women

When you hear that a couple have split up because of an affair it is easy to assume it was the man’s fault, but recent studies suggest that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret. According to Dr David Holmes between eight and 15 per cent of children haven't been fathered by the man who thinks he's the biological parent.

Women don’t Ejaculate

Not all women ejaculate, but some do. If you have seen women ejaculate during pornography this is not an accurate depiction. In reality, women ejaculate a small amount of fluid, which is a mixture of urine and a liquid from the G-spot (the female equivalent to a prostate). However, most women do not experience ejaculation, so if you don’t, there’s no need to worry.

Are Single Women Happier?

Are Single Women Happier?

Whenever I imagine Elizabeth Bennet walking into the sunset with Mr. Darcy in tow I get a funny feeling in my stomach. Why would someone as independent and self-sufficient as her, want to get hitched to man who is known for his pride and vanity?

The same question is now being asked, albeit in a different tone. Are single women happier? Does marriage change the quantum of happiness? Is being single the only way for women to be truly satisfied and content with their lives? And finally, does marriage hold the same significance that it did, say 20 years ago?

The single versus married debate

Advantage Single

• It is a widely propagated phenomenon that single women are happier in today’s day and age because it automatically means more financial and personal independence.
• Being single means not bowing down to the pressures of one’s family and spouse in order to settle down in life, quit one’s career in order to start a family and prioritise one’s life according to whims and fancies of the hubby.
• Being single in no way means that women cannot get pregnant. There are several options available such as adoption and artificial insemination that doesn’t require a woman to be married in order to become a mother!
• It has also been observed that single women are generally more focused about uplifting their lives. More and more women are looking at higher education, professional training and even opting quirkier professions such as scuba diving instructors because they do not have to worry about a family waiting at home; for dinner!
• With the incidences of marital abuse and rape rising, single women are actually better off. Being single means that they can freely choose with whom they want to be with.

 Advantage Marriage

• It has been indicated by social researches that marriage has a positive influence on health and lifestyle. For example, couples tend to lay off bad habits such as smoking and drinking because they feel responsible towards their alliance. A case in point is the 2004 Centers for Disease Control and Prevention research which says that married couples are less likely to smoke and are also safeguarded against some psychological problems.
• Single women tend to have poorer finances at the time of retirement because the habit of saving is more strongly reinforced between couples.
• Single women are subjected to filial and societal pressures of getting married. This can bog them down and also accelerate the risk of depression and stress related problems.
• Security also becomes an issue for single women because it is tendency of the male centred society to view them as wanton and lascivious. It has been widely reported that single women in the big bad city are more vulnerable. Rapes and murders of single women living all alone are not exactly a rarity.

 Fact File

• In a report made public by the US Census Bureau, the percentage of married couples has dropped from 72% in 1970 to just 48% in 2010.
• A poll conducted by CBC news has led to the conclusion that 7 out of 10 Americans feel that marriage has lost its meaning in the modern era.
• A University of Pennsylvania study has indicated that marital conflict can cause not only discord but has a negative effect on health as well.

Now that both sides of the coin have been presented it is up to you to decide whether single women are indeed happier or if they need marriage in order to find happiness!

How Important is Sex in a Marriage?

How Important is Sex in a Marriage?

A survey conducted in Britain has pointed out that married people have sex on an average of 98 times in a year. On the other hand, an unmarried person has sex about 127 times a year. The statistics indicate a major change that comes about in our lives post marriage. Although not the all important reason for a marriage to stay alive, sex does play an important role in keeping the spark of love and intimacy alive in a marriage.

Sex is an indicator of intimacy

Sure there are other ways of showing you love each other, but if sex ranks really low in your list of priorities in the marriage, then there might be some problem. It may be due to personal reasons such as low self confidence or it might be because you probably don’t desire each other as much. Both are problem areas and need to be looked at. Sex is important in a marriage because it is an indicator of the level of physical intimacy in your relationship.

Sex bonds people together

The intimate moments that you share with your spouse will work best by bringing the two of you closer. Sex is important in a marriage because it brings two people closer and also instils the faith in them that they are desired and wanted by their partner.

Sex helps in problem solving

Sexual intimacy helps couples solve their problems. Passion and emotions will help a couple look beyond their disagreeing points and help them bury the hatchet. Sex helps a relationship by rekindling the lost romance and bringing two people closer than ever. Sex in a marriage is a sign that two people completely trust each other and are therefore, so close to each other.

Sex is an indicator of desire

No one wants to be in a marriage that lacks passion and desire. Therefore, consensual and invigorating sex in a marriage is an indicator that the two partners still desire and want each other.

Sex keeps the spark alive

A dwindling sex life within a marriage may trigger one or both the partner’s for looking at liaisons outside the bounds of marriage. This is not healthy for the relationship as matters such as infidelity may permanently scar the relationship. 

Sex is important for individuals

A healthy sex life will make a person feel wanted and will boost her/his confidence. And a confident person will automatically be successful and will also work towards making the marriage work. On the other hand, if a person is not desired by her/his partner within the bounds of marriage it will hurt her/his self esteem. Problems will arise and they will eventually take a toll on the marriage.

10 Ways to Be a Good Wife

10 Ways to Be a Good Wife

Pamper Yourself

The very first thing you must do to be a good wife is to take care of yourself so that you feel good! Eat healthy, exercise regularly and maintain the way you look so that you remain the most attractive woman in his life! Irrespective of your age, if you look good, you will definitely feel better.

Appreciate Him

According to a survey men like to be appreciated. So say a sweet ‘thank you’ when you see that he has made any effort, whether it is for you, your kids or for your house. Your compliments and appreciation will put a smile on his face and joy in his heart. 

Make your Husband a Priority

It often happens that wives are so occupied in their every day household chores and kids that they start taking their husbands for granted. Don’t do that. Instead try to spend quality time with your husband. 

Tell Him that He is Important

Let him know that he is important for you. Try to take interest in his hobbies and work. But make sure that you don’t overdo it. Be there for his support and not as an obstacle to his freedom.

Give him Space

Every one needs some time to relax, socialise with friends or simply to be alone. To be a good wife, encourage your husband to socialise with family, friends and do the things he enjoys the most.  

Don’t Force Him to Change

Never force your husband to behave or act in a particular manner. Most behavioural experts suggest you cannot change others' behaviour. For instance, if you are outgoing and like to socialise and your husband is shy then you can either cut short the duration of social activity or go by yourself. But make sure to thank him when he attends a party for you. If you find something really annoying, then simply let him know or use positive reinforcement for changing that habit. 

Have Friends

Most women shrink their social network after marriage and become totally dependent on their husband. Don’t expect your husband to be your partner, lover and best friend. Instead make good friends and have fun. This will help you to bring new energy to your married life. 

Believe in your Husband

Even though most men show their brave side to world but at times, they do lack confidence and fear failure. Let him know that the love of his life believes in him even when he does not believe himself.  

Pay Compliments

Complimenting to your husband can actually help your relationship. Men like compliments as much as the women do. So keep complimenting!!

Keep the Romance Alive

Marriage does not mean the end of romance. Be affectionate to your partner and let him know that you still find him interesting. You can plan a romantic date, initiate sexual foreplay or simply write a love note and see the smile on his face widening!